P.S. You are reading this at your own peril.The language is highly inflammable to bearers of moral cultural torch,it is derogatory for conservationists and highly despicable about many cultural ambiguities we hold within us!
To quote Julia Roberts in the film Notting Hill; “They’re just breasts, every second person has them.”
What is so special about a gland made up of ductules and fats that is primarily meant to feed the infant? Why is to be kept veiled? This question may present me as a pervert! And this is the reason where the crux of every social evil in society begins. The carnal is what makes the evil more rampant.Carnal instinct helps in reproducing and that is what it is meant to do,But when this same instinct begins defying its purpose and starts behaving as the “deal” or the “gift” in order to get a work done,it starts signifying that the material corporate world still believes in the flesh for money stuff,a reminder of Shylock who famously remarked “a pound of flesh” in Merchant of Venice.[speaking metaphorically.] When breasts become a symbol of erotica,they still remain within the fringes of morality considering nudity is considered an erotic art.But when the same breasts become the launching pad for a big project or a big tender,the moral corruption begins there. Flesh trading begins at the smallest level and is fully manifested at the biggest level. When flesh trade happens at home,it takes the form of “rape”, “marital rape”, “child abuse”……..when happens in a community,it takes the form of prostitution…..when happens in five star hotels,it is merged with a respectable term known as “escort”. But do we ever think that if the evil that is centred around sex is so much rampant,why is it that we still try to be so orthodox about it.I bet while I am writing many such evils are taking place,either in a suburb of Mumbai or a bylane of Kanpur or the highway of Faridabad,but what is the maximum I am doing.Just blogging! That is where hypocrisy begins.
Consider this. When I start discussing Child Abuse..I have a thought that I am spreading awareness. Well and Fine! Do we discuss the first and the most pre-disposing condition of child abuse?No! Small houses,small per square area for each individual,cringing spaces are the first criteria.Do we blame the poverty that induces the proximity? No we blame the proximity! Mind is a strange weapon that can write a single incident in million ways and interpret it in another zillion ways. Whom do you want to blame? The brother forcing his penis inside his sister while having fantasized it every night while sleeping on a “chatai” with his mother and father also in slumber beside him. Or do youw ant to blame the poverty and the socio-economic background that allows for such proximity that the lines of moralities seem blurred. I have had the chance to counsel many people with similar instances during my psychiatry posting.Many are guilty,many are lost. But in all this hoopla we forget that the real issue is not child abuse but the real issue is the pattern of economic development that is happening around us. Do you seriously think that a show will change the attitude of those uncles who love to caress the vagina of 6 year old to gratify thenmselves. Do you really think that each parent will eye each uncle with suspicion if he takes their 5 year old boy/girl and cuddles him? Do you really think sitting on a sofa and crying and wailing will make India that boasts of “pop culture” to rethink their own disposition? Will a show that never ever tries to take out the most real subdued matters regarding an issue be successful in creating awareness. You need not create an awareness reagarding an uncle abusing his niece because you cannot allow definite demarcations for child abuse. Does a touch constitute it? How do you define which touch? Touch on the cheek! Touch on the chest that does not even have a breast! Touch on the hips. how is the touch–gentle or grabbing! If some people who have suddenly woken up to the issue because of certain allegiances to a star think Child Abuse is an “obvious” thing– They need a reality check! Child Abuse is mostly manifested in a manner that the child never quite understands it when its happening except if he is beyond 9-10 years.Later when he is educated enough,he recalls stuffs that happened to him and even then he draws vague ideas about it.Sometimes admitting it and beginning to hate his life and sometimes forcing himself to believe none of it was true!
A victims wail cannot bring awareness. Rape Victim if shows off her traumatised neck and chest will only evoke compassion but will not allow for a change in the evil threads of our culture.Much of child abuse is done by middle aged men.They are mostly bored of their marital life,of the sagging breasts of their 45+ wife who has borne him 4 children.They look for revisiting their youth.Since no girl is going to lend them their sanctity and maybe they cannot attempt it,they turn to the small boys,gratifying their thirst with them.I want the host to speak openly about this mid-life crisis in a man’s life~! Tab Dil par lagegi. I do not want to hear how a boy was sodomized,I want to listen the nudest truth of why it happens. I want a certain community analyst to sit down and tell me that “Look Mister,If you force 6 people of same family to sleep so close together,at least in 1% of the case some forceful incestual stuff will take place!” I want a Government official to admit it and lament the situation because I know he cannot change it in next 50 years! Stories can just evoke emotional aspects for few hours but eventually all is forgotten.You all remember the way we get worked up listening to an inspirational story but the next moment Indian Idol ads come onscreen,we are busy discussing who may win this season!
Kudos to the show for touching these stuffs but the manner is so superficial and unimaginative that it will not change an iota of stuff.Has any rule been able to stop a rape.Rules act as deterrent.Does Aamir think a deterrent will stop Child Abuse that takes place safely in drawing rooms of homes when similar deterrents could not stop rapes on the middle of the road. All this show does is to make the urban society feel guilty for a few minutes on twitter and FB and then soon become indifferent to it as soon as the trailer of ETT is launched. Trending Topics keep changing on twitter.The day some become constant,the first winds of change will be visible.Aamir should shed some inhibitions,touch the taboo-est of issues with utmost sincerity and then we can actually dissect it all.Alas,till now it all seems so hilariously superficial and badly cooked!Hoping for some honesty in further episodes. And yes,before I part,these workshops are as futile as Nirmal Baba asking people to attend his “samagam” and believe that the “evil” will perish.For that the “conscience” needs to be shaken,something that SJ boasts of but fails to!
Milind/AnupamTags: Aamir Khan Child Abuse Satyamev Jayate Sex